Circling our kids in prayer…everyone of them. Every day. Why? Because parenting Adult Children is harder than I expected it to be… I love them more…it’s like being a new mom all over again.
Joshua 1:9 “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
New International Version
Joshua 1:9 was the verse Ted and I chose starting September 1… and here we are… 40 plus days later… being as bold and courageous as we know how…every morning and every evening praying for our kids name upon name…purpose upon purpose… but little did we know…
Me telling the truth in my journal about 40 day of praying for my Adult Children
Our church has been in a 40 Day Challenge to “circle in prayer” our concerns day and night. We are challenged to pray in new ways; pray more often; and fast one or more items in our daily lives to remind ourselves to pray instead of worry, criticize, or complain.
Praying for our adult kids is a bold move. Praying seems so simple. Praying seems mandatory. But then…the reality sets in…we have no idea how to pray. I want to know WHO they are. I want to know WHAT they need. I want to know WHERE they are. But all I need to know is WHO they serve.
Once I ask the simple question, “How can I pray for you?” I see very clearly what they serve and where their true treasures lie. Sometimes this is heartbreaking because my kids don’t get the “big picture” of what really matters…according to…ME.. Oh DANG it. I am just like them…I need to realign what and WHO is really important in my prayer life.
More honesty …
I know if I can align my DESIGN to the DESIGN of the Father then I will pray in His will and we BOTH will be more fulfilled and happier. But…my selfish desires get in the way… my flesh and pride and lust and my CRAZY TO DO LIST are so distracting. Even the GREAT purposes He has for me seem to get lost in the other good things that I can accomplish today on the way to the one thing He has for me. Obviously, my kids get distracted to the GOOD AWAY FROM THE GREAT.
Back to my kids…poor guys.
In praying for them often I have to pray 360 degrees all the way around them! I have to start with:
“Bless their mind and that knowledge they received when they went to school or I home schooled them, and make that knowledge obey YOUR command to the good, the true, and the beautiful. Bless their bodies and may they function in full health as You designed in the Garden before we corrupted everything. Keep their bodies from addictions and abuse. May they never be abused or be an abuser. Heal them from their past hurts. Forgive them and show them how to forgive themselves. Consecrate their hearts for your service. Reveal their sin to them and show them how to repent quickly. Allow them to celebrate the return to your presence. Keep them ever close to You and to each other. MAY THEY CLEARLY HEAR YOUR VOICE. Amen.”
Daily I keep a journal of where they are in their businesses, family life, health, and friendships. When I don’t know where they are in those areas I realize I can’t pray for them well.
“He prayeth well, who loveth well
Both man and bird and beast.He prayeth best, who loveth best
Samuel Coleridge Rhyme of the Ancient Mariner
All things both great and small;
For the dear God who loveth us,
He made and loveth all.”
Occasionally, my children need bold and courageous prayers beyond what seems appropriate. Friends have asked, “Can you really pray that about your kids?” As long as scripture does not contradict what one of my children asks me to pray I feel it is totally permissible.
I have prayed for A’s on college exams; wins for sports teams; people to say “yes” to proposals; two pink lines on a pregnancy test (I have never prayed for only one pink line–even though I think at least one of my kids wanted me to do that!–more than once; job promotions; job relocations; that the kid would get caught when acting unethically; that the kid would escape harm when innocent; verbal defense against slander; legal defense against injustice; miraculous healing; salvation and sanctification. Just to name a few.
I keep a prayer board with sticky notes for ongoing prayers. Daily I write prayer requests and draw circles around their ongoing desires and needs. I also have a prayer bowl filled with prayer requests from my kids and other folks who send me their requests on a weekly basis. I keep the journal on the kitchen counter; the prayer board hangs in my bathroom; the prayer bowl sits on my office desk. I don’t want to go anywhere in my house without thinking, “Are you praying for your kids?”
I am old. My memory is bad. I want LOTS OF REMINDERS.
My kids need prayers 24/7. I can’t fight their battles, but I know someone who can.
I must be bold and courageous in praying for my adult children because the world, the enemy, and their own demons will be fearless in fighting against them.
How do you pray for your adult children?