“She is a leader, always has been, that is why I love coaching her up in all her dreams.”
“He is always quoting from books I have given him or YouTube videos of famous folks.”
“She has a dozen mentors. I just helped choose them!”
Parents who realize their adult children need mentors
“I can teach you everything I know, but that is not enough to be everything you need to know,” my Dad told me as we swung on our white porch swing. “The problem is I don’t know what the problems will be when you are my age.” Wise advice indeed.
Today, our young adult children are facing problems addressing technologies and jobs that were not invented when we were starting our careers. Although we may be experts at the jobs we have had for 30 years, many of the strategies that got us ahead in our field remain dated and antiquated. Sorry, if that made us feel old, but after all…
the need for the right mentors
Obviously, our adult children may need several mentors. I remember a friend of mine told me she had a mentor that helped her set business goals. She had another spiritual mentor to hold her accountable for her private spiritual life. Since she was finishing an advanced degree, she had an academic mentor that helped her when she got bogged down in business school. Finally, when she was a new mom she had a “mommy mentor,” a go-to gal for all things from breastfeeding to baby development. No one person should be expected to help us with advice in all areas of our life. We need to encourage our adult children to have multiple mentors.
But what about us?
Simply because others are speaking into the lives of our adult children, this is no reason that we should not be striving to mentor them. As the older adults who know our adult children better than anyone else, we are positioned to mentor our adult children best. Presenting our own availability to our adult children speaks to them, the message that we are open to listening and spending time with them. By listening for hours, spending time getting involved in their interests, we tell our adult children that they are worthy of our time and interest. Mentoring our adult children in any area in which they need help gives them more confidence and keeps them on the right path. Although our kids might go through many hardships, one should never be wondering if we support them. It is never too late to become your offspring’s biggest fan.
How do you mentor your adult children? Are there areas you are particularly proud of and equipped to mentor?
I would love to hear from you.