“So what is the point of what you are doing now? What are you going for?”
This conversations was started by a dear friend of mine who has helped me complete lots of projects. She is well aware I “don’t do anything for nothing.” Therefore, this was a very natural question when she learned I had turned my writing and speaking efforts toward the subject of parents to adult children.
The return of lots of my efforts is not monetary but emotional, spiritual, academic, or as in this case: culture changing.
I explained to Julie, and lots of other folks since that day, that I am blogging, filming, writing, speaking, to build a CULTURE OF UNITY.
Our world needs to be a kinder, gentler, more unified place. Change happens slowly, but it does happen. When I reconcile with my adult children, when I build bridges to them, our relationship becomes stronger. When other parents of adult children see how we relate to each other, those folks are encouraged. Hopelessness turns to hope as others see adults and their parents interacting, getting along, and enjoying each other’s company.
I long for the day that the “mother-in-law” jokes cease to be funny because nobody can relate to a bad relationship with in-laws.
You know how gals at the office start the first of November dreading going home for the holidays because of the snooty relatives? Don’t we want that to be ancient history?
Let’s anticipate the time when men and women mark the days off with big red X till they can be with their adult siblings and aging parents again?
The day when the term “prodigal child” means only a TEMPORARY time of growth in a young adult and not a permanent state may happen in my lifetime.
Yes, I may seem overly optimistic about the impact this unifying work will have on moms and dads with their grown children. But like all culture changers: I believe even I can make a difference.
How are you making a difference by building a better relationship with your adult children? I would love to hear from you! Drop a comment below.