Lesson One: FAIL EPICLY

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Psalm 57:7

7 My heart is steadfast, O God,
    my heart is steadfast!
I will sing and make melody!
A year ago  I was confident I heard the Lord tell me to sell my company and take a new adventure. The new adventure was the one I am on now: writing, blogging, speaking about parenting adult children. 
But, the sale of the company did not go. I regrouped and turned to sell shares in the company to generate the income I needed to be able to ‘step aside’ from my salary and begin this project.
Fail.
When that did not work either I stalled in this writing venture.
Even though all my kids were finished with school, I found it impossible to just close the doors and turn away.  There has still been no financial provision for my new venture but I taking the steps to pursue this calling of dialoguing with others about parenting our adult children.

Hebrews 10:35

35 Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward.

A GOOD JOB TO FOLLOW YOU

Recently, a gal visited our church who had been called to be a midwife to Haiti. having seen the high  mortality rate of the mothers who had just given birth.  She realized that these mothers were leaving orphans because of very treatable infections and lack of knowledge.  According to her testimony, she told the Lord, “Lord, if you will just give me a good paying job while I am here in the states so I can pay these school bills, then I will go back to Haiti and deliver babies and keep mothers alive.”
Our pastor laughingly said, “Never tell God if He gives you a good paying job then you will follow. Go ahead and tell Him you will do it for free and depend on Him, because that is what has to happen every time, right?”
Right.
Although the world may see my company not selling as an epic fail I am choosing to see it as a great provision to increase my faith in the calling of this project.
I am not a great writer. I am not a great organizer or time manager. Every word will depend on the Lord. Every edit will depend on Him. The provision for the project will come from Him.
Jehoshephat knew that dependence when the men of Ammon and Moab and Mount Seir threatened to come and invade the Israelites.  King Jehoshaphat cried out the prayer I have prayed so many times:
 “We do not know what to do, but our eyes are on you.” 2 Chronicles 20:12
So why in the world would I beign with FAILURE as the first lesson in learning to parent adult children? Becuase we will fail them. We have failed them…

Why is FAILURE the first lesson in learning to parent our children who are now adults? Because we will fail them.  We have failed them.

We failed them as infants! Remember how SHOCKED we were that the nursing staff could be so incompetent as to let us leave the hospital with that baby that we knew NOTHING about raising?
And toddlers — do not get me started! I can never go back to that SuperCenter, since my toddler threw a fit because he wanted to leave, and then promptly threw up in the basket! News flash– we will continue to fail them.
Fail. Fail. Fail. 
But just as we continued to love and nurture them through the infant and toddler fails, we carry on in their adult lives. We cannot save our adult children from making mistakes (although most do not still throw fits in the middle of Target any more) or from unhappy days, broken hearts, rejection from friends (or siblings), lost jobs, or natural disaster. But we can show them where to look for comfort…
And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.
My almost-joke prayer to the Lord is always, “Lord, you got me into this parenting thing. It was your idea not mine. You better do something here!”
Smiling, He does. He never fails.

Author: Dr. Johnnie K. Seago

Johnnie Seago is a national conference speaker who is passionate about building leadership in families. As the mother to eight adult children, she desires families to learn to connect and communicate to build a community of support. She extends her leadership and team building experience to schools, businesses, and civic groups. Johnnie’s messages equip leaders to: Find their strength in the design God used to create them Find their purpose for which God created them Partner with others for support in reaching goals Commit to the dreams God has placed on their heart Become accountable for their success as leaders Johnnie’s ministry to families includes: Helping families transition from childhood to adulthood Teaching parents to communicate with their adult children Working through difficult situations as teens become adults Providing resources and ideas for productive grand-parenting Johnnie and her husband, Ted has been married for 40 years. They live in the suburbs of Houston, Texas on a lake where they enjoy boating and water sports and the occasional day of floating and reading.

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